Learning about why we get stressed and how to manage it more effectively is a great skill for life.
Stress is a normal part of life and can even be beneficial in some situations.
However, if you’re worried that your child is under a lot of stress and it’s been going on for a while or is affecting their everyday life, there are things you can do to help them.
We’re afraid of disappointing those we love and messing up in some extravagant, irreparable way. To fight fear, we must cultivate trust in the one person who’s in control and never changes. After all, what happens when our dream job falls through or we fail dramatically? Help us face fear, then, by preparing us for fearful circumstances. Have you thought about sharing your own struggles and stories of fear with your teenager? Then show them how the gospel has freed—and continues to free—you from fear. Show them what it means to put their focus in the right place.
The fear of failure is paralyzing because it inhibits us from taking risks and moving forward—which is, of course, what growing up is all about.
Have a chat to your family doctor, or consider giving your child an opportunity to talk things over with a counsellor.
Everyone has different abilities and when one is under pressure to deliver especially in school, the feeling can be frustrating.
It has lost its rosy, predictable blush and has been iced over with a harder edge. As teenagers we start to realize the idealistic plans we made as kids aren’t sure things. Last winter, a few months after I turned 18, marked one of the most unstable times in my life. Fear of Failure If teenagers are honest, it’s not just the unfamiliarity of the future that scares us—it’s the idea of in it. Telling teens that life will be easy if they follow Jesus is a spectacular deception. Teach your teens to root out fear with intentional thankfulness. Whatever happens, God’s in control and he’ll take care of us.
Mentally and spiritually, I was settled, but in every other part of life, I was in-between: in-between school, jobs, plans, and security. My future was a blank slate, everything was up in the air, and I felt swallowed by the unknown. Failing in school, work, relationships, driving—basically, failing at life. We trust in ourselves or our circumstances or our dreams, and we idolize our security over our Savior. It gives us false expectations and only feeds our fear. Fear isn’t an exclusively adolescent sin, not by a long shot. If they’re afraid of starting a new school, help them create a list of things about the experience they’re thankful for. Yet we still fear, teenager and senior adult alike.
Stress is a normal part of life for teenagers and can be caused by many different things.
The more we learn about stress, the better able we will be as parents to model the behaviours that can help our children learn to cope better with stress.