It allows me to be congruent while helping me stay with the clients feelings. If I am to be truly client centered I would have to have faith in the fact that carol can lead herself to the root of her problem. I have learned that a good counselor can't be phony.
They must be able to relate to others honestly and sincerely.
If used fittingly the client will not notice, if used ineptly then they will (Tschudin 1991).
Selective reflection on the other hand is one in which the counselor echo's what has been said not at the end of the sentence but from the middle.
For example in 7 I should have said, "you said it was all right, you seem unsure" I would hope that she would respond to this by elaborating on what she means.
This, as well as being reflective is also an empathy building statement.
If I am to be truly client centered here I would have to have faith in the fact that carol can lead herself to the root of her problem. It involves asking the client if you have understood what they have said and secondly summarizing what has been said for the purpose of clarification (Burnard 1999).
Maybe following carols answer in 5 I should have returned to her feelings in expressed in 4 by stating "you say the noises and voices are bad" this would help focus on the carols feelings and show that I was listening. It can help focus a conversation and also serves to help the counselor to stay with the client's feelings (Tshcudin 1991).
I realize I don't have to be perfect, but I must try to avoid being defensive when relating to the client.
I must be able to put myself in the client's shoes, try to be genuine being able to understand them and communicate this to them.